Can politeness lead to ‘some of your life’s worst regrets’ ? Taylor Swift seems to think so…

By Sarah Berger

At 29, Taylor Swift has 32 Grammy nominations and 10 wins. She has seven hit albums, her concert tours break records and her estimated net worth in 2018 was a whopping $320 million.

Swift turns 30 this year (in December) and despite her success, she says her 20s have been filled with trials and tribulations. But Swift has learned from them.

One of the noteworthy things Swift has learned is about the perils of being too nice.

“Being sweet to everyone all the time can get you into a lot of trouble,” she writes for Elle in an article called “30 Things I Learned Before 30.” “While it may be born from having been raised to be a polite young lady, this can contribute to some of your life’s worst regrets if someone takes advantage of this trait in you,” she says.

“Grow a backbone, trust your gut, and know when to strike back,” she writes. “Be like a snake — only bite if someone steps on you.”

Swift also says she’s learned that “it’s good to mess up” and to learn from your mistakes.

At 29, Taylor Swift has 32 Grammy nominations and 10 wins. She has seven hit albums, her concert tours break records and her estimated net worth in 2018 was a whopping $320 million.

Swift turns 30 this year (in December) and despite her success, she says her 20s have been filled with trials and tribulations. But Swift has learned from them.

One of the noteworthy things Swift has learned is about the perils of being too nice.

“Being sweet to everyone all the time can get you into a lot of trouble,” she writes for Elle in an article called “30 Things I Learned Before 30.” “While it may be born from having been raised to be a polite young lady, this can contribute to some of your life’s worst regrets if someone takes advantage of this trait in you,” she says.

“Grow a backbone, trust your gut, and know when to strike back,” she writes. “Be like a snake — only bite if someone steps on you.”

Swift also says she’s learned that “it’s good to mess up” and to learn from your mistakes.

“Trying and failing and trying again and failing again is normal,” she says.So “take risks.”

“It’s especially good to do this in your twenties because we are searching. That’s GOOD. We’ll always be searching but never as intensely as when our brains are still developing at such a rapid pace.”

Other things Swift says she learned in her 20s range from the small — like how to make a Mojito and her discovery of Command tape — to the huge. Swift says her mom’s cancer recurrence taught her not to sweat the small stuff, and she learned to heal childhood scars, like the insecurities that came from being an unpopular kid in grade school who sat alone at the lunch table.

Swift has also learned to forgive herself. “Step into the daylight and let it go,” she writes.

This article was first published by CNBC https://www.cnbc.com/2019/03/08/taylor-swift-being-polite-can-lead-to-some-of-your-worst-regrets.html and is republished with its permission.

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